Human = body, emotions, mind, spirit.
Emotions apeir without our control, we can only direct or suppress their energy.
Very often, a habitual scheme for a person to cope with emotions only at the expense of the mind and its strategies. The mind is trying to find a logical way to avoid or resolve the tension that the emotion causes, from which avoidance schemes, rationalizations, endless dialogues in the head with the person who offended, an attempt to scroll through the option “what if I would have done differently?”, attempts to find reasons “what’s wrong with me”… In most cases, the mind can relieve tension by being aware of what happened or why I feel this way and not otherwise. However, this does not give a complete release of tension, and with a strong shock, thoughts are born that cause even more experiences, the mind becomes more and more active, the circle closes and it can all go up to panic attacks.
If we connect our body to this circuit, the situation changes strongly. Firstly, the very contact with the body already allows you to shift the vector of attention from the endless stream of thoughts and return to the reality of the moment here and now. Plus, it becomes possible to be aware of breathing and notice that it is clamped or intermittent… Take a deep breath, sigh, try to breathe free cyclical breathing. This simple move has an instant effect, where there is space for attention to notice what feeling I cannot bear to touch? And try not to run away from it in your head, but to live as a process of the body, without piling it up with concepts and ideas about your own inadequacy, someone else’s injustice and a bunch of other ideas. Try to study what happens to the body when I experience this or that feeling and regulate exactly bodily states. Breathing practices, running, sleeping, massage, yoga, body therapy, martial arts, sauna, pool…
When an emotion, a feeling passes through the bodily channel, this energy is distributed, realized and does not burden the mind with excessive tension. And then the thoughts are clearer, the obsessive nature disappears from them, we are generally much more relaxed and sober in our judgments.
If you notice a burden of repetitive thoughts, most likely there are a lot of unexpressed and unconscious emotions in your system that you are trying to cope with only at the expense of the mind. Try turning on the body component. If it’s difficult to do it yourself or you don’t understand how, contact a psychologist who will help you form such a skill.