To the question of requests like: “I want not to feel this”, “I want to stop worrying about this and that”, and a variation of “I want not to be bothered ..”
You need to understand that in psychotherapy there is no task to turn off your feelings to a particular issue. This would be counter-healthy in relation to the psyche and an adequate psychologist would not agree with such a request. There is no task to turn you into an emotionless robot. The psyche most likely already falls into dissociation enough, if the request sounds like that.
And the situation is that a traumatic situation causes a strong emotional reaction, which, for some reason, you could not fully live and respond to and that is why it still worries you. (I will not go into explanations at the level of brain physiology, you can read Van der Kolk’s book “The Body Remembers Everything”) The simplest and most infantile reaction to an unpleasant feeling is repression. But we want to push it out, so it is not bother anymore, but the psyche is arranged differently and you can’t merge everything into it in a row endlessly. Either some obsessive thoughts will start to come out, then dreams, then compulsive actions, or in extreme cases, the body will begin to give out reactions through diseases very brightly and unpleasantly.
We want everything to be easy, especially as it was when there was not so much suppressions, without particularly strong consequences. However, over time, the cumulative effect makes itself felt. The cup is overflowing and you can either go into hard denial and aggravate the situation, or finally meet the dragon of fear and still react to your feelings.
And this is where the psychologist becomes your ally. It provides all kinds of tools that will help you go through this process as productively, safely, with bonuses as a result and with the ability to integrate experience, so that you can then do this work yourself without him or her, relying on your mature structure. And then, you don’t have to run away from terrible symptoms for years and wish yourself nothing. It is thanks to the ability to live the entire spectrum of emotions your palette of the picture of the perceived world expands. Life becomes brighter and more fulfilling, your support and ability to cope with more complex tasks and situations develops, you less avoid the emotions of other people , which allows you to go into deeper contact, self-confidence, wisdom and acceptance appear.
Usually, the request about “not feeling” is heard by clients who have just come to therapy, so it’s clear that it would be difficult to formulate otherwise when you still don’t quite understand how the psyche works. In that case, I would suggest shifting the focus to “I would like to learn how to deal with ‘these’ states or feelings”…